You never really know what is going on in someone else’s life, unless they are comfortable enough with you to tell you the truth. Please don’t assume you know, and push for things that you want to happen. If you really want to know the truth about how someone is doing, make it clear that you do, and understand that doesn’t necessarily mean they are going to be willing or able to tell you. Be available so that when and if they are ready to share, they know they can share with you. Don’t be attached to being the one they share with; there are lots of reasons why you may not be the one they talk to. Be a good listener.