It is certainly not that your pain, or mine for that matter, does not count for anything. Sometimes it is important to stop and feel that pain; you might want to live in that pain for a while, and really learn the lesson from that pain. But eventually, you will want to move on. And the only way to move forward is to be willing to let that pain go. And for some reason that I do not fully understand yet, sometimes that is hard to do. But I do know this: until you do, it is almost impossible to move on.