There may be another angle on the issue
I think that most of us expect people to do the right thing, and when they don’t, we are surprised. Consider this: sometimes people are doing the right thing in their minds, it just doesn’t correspond to the right thing in our minds. There is often more than one way to look at things. Be aware of this. Stand up for what you believe in, and also be willing to consider that there may be another angle on the issue.